How can you mend a broken heart

[Abetan]

How can you mend a broken heart.

A song by Bee Gees, sung almost 5 decades ago brings lots of meaning to those in and out of love. When I was growing up .. I mean in the process of pubity, I cant run away from being in love. Puppy love that is... being rejected, dumbed and jilted is part and parcel of it all.

The reason why I open up this thread is to discuss and get more info from forumers on HOW CAN WE MEND A BROKEN HEART when we are so much in love with the other half.

What did we do? Of course there will be stupid things that we did, right? Share them with us .. come on.

Love hurts ... even if we were to recalled the sweet moments and memories of the yester years .. Agreed and noted, yar? Sharing our memories on how we mend our broken heart here could be a guideline for youngster in MK-portal so that they do not make the same mistake we made years ago. Mistakes that we had regretted till to-date.

Ladies and gentlemen .. shall we? :Drugs_0521:

[nlaylaaziz]

How to mend or recover from a broken heart. Well thats sumthing that a lot of pple wuld like to know. From my past experiences I have learned a lot about how to recover from a broken heart. Sum of d things i say might sound cliche or like it won't work, but its jest d reality of how things shuld be done.

U must want to confront reality. This leads to d next step.

U have to be honest with urself. By that I mean contemplate the relationship. Why didn't it work? Was it y or was it the other? Whatever d situation is u have to accept d circumstances. If it didn't work out becos of u or becos of ur ex then thats d reality.

Please stop feeling sorry for urself. Its normal for everyone to feel like that. But to get over that stage u have to think about d relationship think about de good time and d bad and cry if u feel like crying. DON'T HOLD IT IN! if u feel stupid and u wanna cry then cry… cry and cry. If u feel sad and wanna cry then cry! After ur done crying and physically cry out d pain u can stop feeling sorry for urself.

Now that u finally cried u think a little clearer and a little more rationally. And again think about d realities of d relationship of what u did. Did d relationship now work out becos u were doing to much in the reltionship? Becos u like them more than they like u? If so let it be accept it. So think about how u can avoid d same situation in the future.

Then stop hoping! I believe this is one crucial one. Listen hope can sumtimes drag u into d relationship longer than u think or can keep u heart broken longer than u think. So stop hoping that u will get back together with that person. What was done is done. Try to move on. Recover think about urself and see if down d road u can go back to it again. By then maybe u matured or they matured.

But to do all of this u r going to need will power. U have to desire change. If u really wanna recover then u will. I know that in d beginning it seems like u stuck in a whole that u will never get out of. But later when u do everything in ur power to better urself u'll cum out with a much stronger heart. Thats what make u stronger … experiences in which u struggle but becos of ur will power u make it thru in one piece. Thats strength.

[Abetan]

Thank for breaking the ice Nlayla :11:

Mending a broken heart .. for me, with my background where I couldn't get most of what I wanted, I tend to re-evaluate as per what Nlayla mentioned. Well, kinda sour grape story .. u know? Tryign to comfort my ownself.

But to hope for her to come back, I dont think I'd ever hoped for that. My 1st break off in 1979, (if you can call a puppy love as an affair) was due to her moving out of town and enrolled to College in Cheras. I was in RMC (Royal Millitary College.. Cadet Wing) then.

Frustrations? yea .. U bet!!! But with my busy schedule and hard training in the RMC, I dont really thought about it. But comes weekend?? I was damned lonley even with all the hanging out & boozing with cadets friends.

I later found out that she had left me for another friend of ours (her present husband) .. and this was a devastating news to me!! She lied! I was kinda furious then. The feeling of love and lonely for being alone had gone. All there is left in my heart was anger where I was dumped for another person.

Spoke to my best friends in RMC (Murugaiyah, now a Brig. General and Azri Mohd Zain, now a successful businessman) .. they were the one who taught me .. "it's better that way" .. "Best man win" .. "It's better now then later" .. And I took their advise.

And from there, I had made a vow to myself that NEVER to compete when it comes to love. When a lady had few choice other then urself to choose .. PULL OUT... BAIL OUT... WITHDRAW!!

She may or could have made the wrong choice then or whatever .. but it's her choice and life .. To me, it hurts to be 2nd fiddle. It sure damned hurt to be a 2nd choice and of a lowr priority choices!! And it definitely hurts when being a sucker!

So, I take life as it is .. there are lots & lots of fish in the pond .. why bother with the one that got away? Maybe she is not meant for me and maybe there is some chick (or chicks :D )out there waiting for me .. maybe this and maybe that .. and with that .. I chilled off and move on with the flow of life ..

That's my version .. but of course there were times when I was half or dead drunk on lots of occasion. Hey .. I am only human though .. :punish:

[L.S.D]

Hmm, mending a broken heart eh?

I have only one devastating heartbreak in my time till now. With my ex, we have been together for 3 years. but somehow, things did not work out, we argued a lot and finally, decided that this is it! Over, Final! but right after breaking up, i do a lot of rethink, and keep on thinking that i am the one to blame la, i could do better etc etc. Tough two months of my time. Feeling sorry for myself, moping around, no one to call to (i called her everyday for one hour last time), a sad period of my times. So, i do the next best thing, looking for a replacement lor. Which is a mistake to do so soon as you will make unfair comparison to the ex especially on the sexual experience. So, broke off again with another and after few unsuccessful courtship and relationships, finally manage to get my thinking right, sort myself out, change to a new job that give me fresher environment (and stop reminding me of the old) and move on. All in all, took me more than one year that time :p
An enriching experience for me as I learnt to deal with hurt :)

[kuderia]

Hmm, mending a broken heart eh?

I have only one devastating heartbreak in my time till now. With my ex, we have been together for 3 years. but somehow, things did not work out, we argued a lot and finally, decided that this is it! Over, Final! but right after breaking up, i do a lot of rethink, and keep on thinking that i am the one to blame la, i could do better etc etc. Tough two months of my time. Feeling sorry for myself, moping around, no one to call to (i called her everyday for one hour last time), a sad period of my times. So, i do the next best thing, looking for a replacement lor. Which is a mistake to do so soon as you will make unfair comparison to the ex especially on the sexual experience. So, broke off again with another and after few unsuccessful courtship and relationships, finally manage to get my thinking right, sort myself out, change to a new job that give me fresher environment (and stop reminding me of the old) and move on. All in all, took me more than one year that time :p
An enriching experience for me as I learnt to deal with hurt :)

Felt and did the same when I broke up with my ex-GF of 2 years. The first week of break up, I lost 10kg just like that.

After the break up my attitude kinda change. Tried alot of new stuff that I have tried to stay away for many years of my life. Not so good stuff I mean.

Didn't help much to mend my broken heart but the way I see it, at least I gain more of life experiences...hehehehehe

[Decent]

I am sorry ...if I offend anyone by saying this.....as I have so many girlfriends when I was young......due to broken hearts!

You see, whenever I broke off or dump by someone....(rarely) or I dump her....I always look for new one to cure the pain......!

Normally I have a few stand-bys so before it can hurt my precious heart someone is replacing her place.....so on and on....I seem to have many girlfriends...!

It is better to know many girls as sometimes....she might not be the one that you are looking for....or the other way round....you are not right for her...!

Broken heart is part of puzzle of growing up and being more mature each time!:cry:

[chaosspawn]

The first will always be the hardest to heal. As Rod says, first cut is the deepest.
Only time will heal a broken heart.

[thesculpture]

Gooooooood Topic!

For me, on my way on dis topic:

i. Throw away all gifts/present from her
ii. Make my world n time....BZ wif work (hohohoh...it works)
iii. N most important... do this A.S.A.P ...... find another soulmate. Yeah, its hard to find that fast. But hey, for me, its work. Coz she can help u a lot in forgetting ur past wif ur x (it works 4 me)

[EilHymn]

My medicine is simple, Go Out Of The House and Fuck 10 Other Women. Works like a miracle drugs for me!

[feeza24]

My medicine is simple, Go Out Of The House and Fuck 10 Other Women. Works like a miracle drugs for me!

Does it cure the lonely heart after the drugs effect subside? =P

[gilaseks001]

wah ... side effect of medicine :-o ... no $ after cheong so many women :-p !

[goodie0018]

well, having your groups of friends around u, and find a new target asap..hehe..then u will focus on your new target, and forget the old ones, and your heart automatically heal

[Sir Lancelot79]

"how can u mend a broken heart....how can u stop the rain from falling down....how can u stop, the sun shining...what makes the world go round" from the lyrics of the song, u'll know that heartbroken is something that u can't avoid. the best thing is to carry on with your life and leave of your past and history behind. Thats the best thing we can do.

[Queenie]

yeah..finding a new target is the best solution even if its juz to fantasize coz ur too scared to step out of those grief n misery.

i found my cure last nite, fantasizing a smooth groove of a sexy song wit tat hot somebody tat i know i wudnt approach..safer..no headache..no brokenheart..a fantasy i cud keep forever in my head n smile when i close my eyes n think about wat wud i do if the chance ever came crossed. finally, i managed to sleep.

Q.

[bxoc]

You don't mend broken heart but deal with it ;-) .....

[edward7706]

One way to mend a broken heart is jamm with friends, thus for those of u with broken heart, cum n join us in 'tt jamm' in Cjangkang

[XiaoJiao]

People may say no one ever died of a broken heart, but when you're suffering from one, it sure doesn't feel that way--at least initially.

1. Breathe. All you can do is survive this first and difficult day. Take one day at a time. Give yourself permission to mourn. Call in sick at work, sleep all day, eat too much ice cream, sob.

2. Congratulate yourself for being human: It is only when you open yourself to love that your heart can break. Develop and repeat a helpful mantra to get you through the initial shock and pain, such as "This too shall pass" or "I will survive."

3. Reach out to a close friend or family member. It helps to share your thoughts with others. Watch a movie to distract yourself. Choose a comedy that has cheered you up in the past. Or watch a movie that's guaranteed to make you sob--it may surprise you how good that feels.

[myglim]

go holiday for one month..really very hard to mend

[eyemore]

world is an open stage..
if we can play our part then go to other stage where we suit..

hehe..

[nemoz]

Heart was neva meant to b broken, n no doctors can fix a broken heart
We be dead by then..
Its our feelins and emotions we hav to learn to control and life mus move on

1. he/she will not know or be there to witness ya cry
2. Many fishes in d sea, n our life is short
3. matters of heart, we cant think when we r angry or sad
4. meditation or prayin, it does help to relax our mind
5. only time can heal the pain
6. things happen for a reason, mayb them or us, so no point blamin
7. its just fate, if we hav tried all this to make a relationship happen

[Saravan]

My medicine is simple, Go Out Of The House and Fuck 10 Other Women. Works like a miracle drugs for me!
This is 200% sure..also worked well for me

[tetraceta]

welll...i have a thing to share....

how to mend a broken heart.....

juz a week before my marriage....the girl broke the DEAD LOCK...and return always everything to me ( plus the money...)....makes me very2 upset because everything is on the schedule......so what i do....i took all the money and fly to Ireland for a week.....my family never questioned my decision....they understand why i so upset..... i spend almost rm20k there......but still can't mend my broken heart....

[XiaoJiao]

A broken heart is like a broken glass, no matter how well you mend it back, the scratches are there forever already. :crybaby::crybaby::crybaby:

[N-B]

A broken heart is like a broken glass, no matter how well you mend it back, the scratches are there forever already. :crybaby::crybaby::crybaby:

But which heart do u think is more beautiful? the one with scratches n diferrent diferrent unmatch pices of others heart or the brand new one that never touched!?

[XiaoJiao]

But which heart do u think is more beautiful? the one with scratches n diferrent diferrent unmatch pices of others heart or the brand new one that never touched!?

Well, no one is perfect in this world, guess we must learn to live, appreciate and be contended with what is given to us...:redbandana::redbandana::redbandana:

[mizz winky]

Well, no one is perfect in this world, guess we must learn to live, appreciate and be contended with what is given to us...:redbandana::redbandana::redbandana:

true.... but need some toleration in relations and understanding.....

for me yeah now im heartbreaking n 1 way i'll take....
let go n move away from every thing n every body only 1 i cant do.... change my number bcoz my mom...
but the true i will not forget every moment every single thing every single time min n second.... when with him never forget it......

[XiaoJiao]

A broken heart is easily mend as soon as you get a replacement. :bed::bed::bed:

[PergiJauh]

doing other thing...dont listen 2 love song...hang outs with frens...sports and watching dvd....hehehehe...and make sure dont always think about it...sur time by time soon u will 4get what happened

[Pennywise]

doing other thing...dont listen 2 love song...hang outs with frens...sports and watching dvd....hehehehe...and make sure dont always think about it...sur time by time soon u will 4get what happened

Well, that is one way to forget a person.

But is there really a way to mend a broken heart?

I guess, the only way to do so, is to find another one to fill in the blank in the heart, thats is only when the heart can be mended.......

[PergiJauh]

Well, that is one way to forget a person.

But is there really a way to mend a broken heart?

I guess, the only way to do so, is to find another one to fill in the blank in the heart, thats is only when the heart can be mended.......

yeah...that true...but until you found someone that you like or love...you may use my advice...tq pennywise

[bbphire]

I got broken heart.. still under recovering.. neeed more time.. hm, sad story.. ahh, this video truly talking bout myself..

http://youtu.be/F4-jeu21m8U